There are no words we can offer to begin to help what must be an indescribable loss, but we are all saddened (and angry) for you and your girls. You and Jaim were the welcome faces in the crowd for me, I always felt like no matter how long I've been away you two were always welcoming and caring and I knew I could ask you anything. When I think of one of you, I think of the other. I am so truly sorry for your loss and like so many would be happy to do anything you or the girls need that could help in any way. Sending you love and prayers. :grouphug
#FuckCancer
I've struggled with what to say for days, only commenting my love really. You two were there for me, leading me and often dragging me along with laughs and love. Everything connected to the two of you was given back with love and laughter and warm fully embracing hugs. My heart is shredded for your family, but it also breaks for myself and anyone lucky enough to have been touched by him.
I'll always remember his warm smile, big hugs, warm laughter, stories, jokes, and just listening to the sound of his voice as it carried you away with the story he was telling or reading. We love you hon and are sending you all the love, light, and peaceful healing thoughts.
*raising a glass to you Jaim, for you will always be in my heart. Until we meet again my friend.
Its hard to know what to say. I think of Jim all the time, he was one of the people that "was" the Tower since he was there when I joined and has been a constant presence at every Anni i've gone to (maybe he missed one, but i don't remember if he did).
Having had my dad pass due to a different cancer a few years ago and 2 other friends in stage 4 right now, its just a bit depressing sometimes.
But remember Jim. He was a positive force in everyone's life who knew him, and I want to remember him that way.
I love what Skaya said in her "hash tag" as I feel very much the same way. James/Jim will forever be family to me as I remember his smile, his laugh, and how fun it was an Anni to hear him read during Blue story hour. Not to mention that you were family to my family. You and James were always so kind to me and uplifting when I was so down. You both were friends to hold dear and close and I kick myself for thinking that I had "time" to visit later, catch up later, or talk later. I am sorry I came off Facebook and did not hear about this until my mother mentioned that there had been a "tremendous loss" at Tarvalon.net. It is a tremendous loss to you and yours and to the site. I wish you only the best and please know that Ken will be sending our yearly donation to the American Cancer society from now on in his name. Call or email and always know my door is open to you and yours.
I really have a hard time thinking about Cancer. They are keeping a eye on me due to me having "abnormal cells" in my breasts. Then my Dad was diagnosed with Leukemia and about 6 months later he was gone. My friend Willy is going on his 5 or 6th year of Cancer treatments, mostly it's attempting to moderate his pain. We have had 4 children in the district I live & work with different forms but all are in treatment and sadly one passed when he was in 7th grade and should have graduated with my daughter last year. My Grandfather, my dad's dad lived for 6 years with Leukemia. They are currently testing my family for genetic markers since we've lost 3 family members to Leukemia which they said was odd. My cousin went on vacation with her husband and new baby girl, came home with a sunburn. She noticed a blotchy place on her skin, she went and got checed out. Skin cancer and they started treatment and was gone in less than 3 months.
Why? It makes no sense for so many to struggle with this disease. So many years, so many tests, so much advancements in technology and medication and treatments. Yet it's as if we've made no ground. I'll be so beyond pissed off if our government has been sitting on a cure or better treatment for monetary gain. However I can't help but wonder.
Li, I'm so sorry for your loss. Jim was a wonderful man, kind, generous, good spirited with a sense of humour to boot. I will remember him fondly. The world is a little dimmer since his light went out.